Handle Her With Care- With April Marie

42 THINGS I KNOW AT 42 | Lessons in Self-Love, Self-Respect & Living a Fulfilled Life | Handle Her With Care Podcast
Your girl April Marie is turning 42! 
And instead of keeping the birthday celebration to myself, I’m giving YOU 42 lessons that life, love, motherhood, relationships, mistakes, growth, and becoming a woman have taught me.
Welcome to my 42 at 42 Birthday Episode of Handle Her With Care Podcast!
This episode is a rapid-fire collection of 42 life lessons centered around one thing: learning how to care for yourself from a place of restoration, not resentment.
Because the older I get, the more I realize that a fulfilled life isn't about having everything figured out.
It's about knowing yourself.
Respecting yourself.
Protecting your peace.
Learning from what didn't work.
And becoming more intentional about how you handle YOU.
 In this episode, I'm sharing:
10 Things I Learned From Girlhood to WomanhoodThe lessons we learn about friendship, boundaries, independence, confidence, being liked, changing our minds, and becoming comfortable with who we are.
10 Things Mothers like me Sacrifice While Raising Their ChildrenThe time, sleep, identity, money, emotional bandwidth, spontaneity, and pieces of ourselves that can sometimes get lost in motherhood—and why caring for yourself doesn't make you a selfish mother.
10 Things I have learned From Failed RelationshipsWhy chemistry isn't compatibility, why potential isn't partnership, why you can't love somebody into readiness, and why sometimes leaving is an act of self-care.
 10 Ways to Take Better Care of Your External & Internal SelfFrom sleep and movement to boundaries, mental space, receiving, nervous-system care, and remembering that YOU deserve attention too.
 And 2 Cherry-on-Top Lessons I Know at 42
One of them?
Stop rushing your life.
And the final one?
Handle yourself with care.
 Expect some HOT TAKES. Expect some CLARITY MOMENTS. Expect some laughs. And expect a whole lot of real talk about what it means to become HER.
Because at 42, I know this:
The goal isn't perfection. It's fulfillment.
It's knowing what you like.Knowing what you don't like.Knowing what you're willing to give.Knowing what you're no longer willing to tolerate.And learning that the same care you freely give everybody else belongs to you, too.
If you're a woman navigating self-love, relationships, motherhood, healing, boundaries, dating, personal growth, or simply becoming a softer and more fulfilled version of yourself, this episode is for you.
 Here's to 42 years of becoming, unbecoming, learning, healing, loving, laughing, and living.
And here's to the woman you're still becoming.
 Talk real. Heal deep. And ladies…live soft.
 
 HANDLE HER WITH CARE PODCAST
Hosted by April Marie, self-care coach and founder of Handle Her With Care Podcast.
A space for honest conversations about self-care, self-love, relationships, womanhood, motherhood, healing, intimacy, boundaries, personal growth, and learning how to return to yourself with grace.
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THE ART OF FLIRTING WITHOUT CHASING | Handle Her With Care Podcast
Ladies… let’s talk about flirting. 
Have we become so afraid of looking “too interested” that we’ve accidentally started communicating “don’t approach me” to the very people we might actually be interested in?
In this episode of Handle Her With Care Podcast, April Marie is talking about the art of flirting without chasing—because there is a BIG difference between communicating attraction and pursuing someone who isn't reciprocating.
You don't have to hunt.You don't have to convince.You don't have to pretend you don't care.And you definitely don't have to abandon yourself just to get somebody's attention.
Flirting is communication.
Sometimes the invitation is in the eye contact and the signaling.
Sometimes it's the smile.Sometimes it's simply being open, present, and willing to engage.
The goal isn't to become irresistible to every man. The goal is to become recognizable to the right one.
In this episode, we're talking about:
- Why women can be afraid to flirt-Knowing whether you actually LIKE him—or just like the attention
* 5 nonverbal ways to communicate interest-The difference between inviting and chasing- How to flirt without losing yourself-Why being emotionally unavailable isn't “feminine energy”-Giving compliments and asking meaningful questions-How to recognize whether his interest is being reciprocated- Why you need to leave space for someone to show you who they are- And why mutual attraction and mutual effort matter more than convincing someone to choose you
 A few hot takes from this episode:
“Stop trying to get men you haven't even decided you like.”
“The first look can be an accident. The second look is information.”
“You can open the door, but you don't have to drag him through it.”
“Being emotionally unavailable is not feminine energy.”
And my favorite…
“The goal isn't to become irresistible to every man. The goal is to become recognizable to the right one.”
WHEW. 
If you're dating, flirting, healing from old relationship patterns, or simply learning how to communicate what you want without over-pursuing, this conversation is for you.
Because Handle Her With Care isn't about teaching women how to “get” a man.
It's about teaching you how to know yourself, know what you like, communicate honestly, maintain your standards, and stop abandoning yourself in the pursuit of love.
 Talk real. Heal deep. And ladies… live soft.
 ABOUT HANDLE HER WITH CARE PODCAST
I'm April Marie is a self-care coach, entrepreneur, and your girl reminding women that self-care isn't just about bubble baths. It's about learning how to care for yourself from a space of restoration, not resentment.
Handle Her With Care is a space for honest conversations about womanhood, love, relationships, self-care, intimacy, motherhood, friendships, healing, and learning how to return to yourself with grace.
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What if knowing your body intimately was one of the most important forms of self-care?
In this episode of Handle Her With Care, we're having an honest, grown-woman conversation about women, sexuality, sensuality, pleasure, and self-discovery.
Too often, women are taught how to be desirable without being taught how to understand their own desires. 
We're taught to please our partners, but not always encouraged to explore what makes us feel connected, confident, comfortable, and fulfilled.
And baby… we're not Miss Celie. (The Color Purple)
 
Your body is not simply a place for someone else to receive pleasure. You are an entire instrument and you deserve to know how to care for, communicate about, and appreciate your own body.
 
In this episode, we explore:
-Why women need to know what they like-How exploring your body can become an act of self-love-The importance of understanding your erogenous zones-How sensuality goes beyond sex-Why communication is essential to intimacy-How body image can interfere with pleasure-How women can get out of their heads and become more present in their bodies-Ways couples can create more curiosity and connection within committed relationships-Why pleasure should be about connection not performance
This isn't about performing for someone else.
It's about knowing yourself.
Because you can't effectively communicate what you want if you've never taken the time to discover it for yourself.
And sometimes the most powerful question a woman can ask isn't:
"Does he like this?"
It's:
"Do I like this?"
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Mind Your Magic: Why Hating Is Keeping You Stuck | Handle Her With Care Podcast What if the very thing keeping you from peace isn't your circumstances but your perspective? In this honest solo episode, April Marie dives into a conversation we don't have often enough: hating, comparison, gossip, and the emotional cost of constantly watching someone else's life.
If you've ever found yourself comparing your journey, feeling triggered by another woman's success, or surrounded by negativity, this episode is an invitation to choose something better.
Together we'll explore:
Why comparison steals your joy
The hidden emotional roots of jealousy
How gossip damages community
Why celebrating others creates room for your own blessings
Five practical ways to replace negativity with purpose and peace
The woman you're becoming doesn't have time to hate—she's too busy healing, growing, and building the life she deserves.
✨ If this episode encouraged you, like, subscribe, and share it with a woman who is choosing peace over pettiness.
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Join the conversation: What does it really cost to be the woman who carries it all? Welcome to Part 2 of this incredible moment! 
In this heartfelt episode, April Marie sits down with a fellow entrepreneur, mother, and divorcee Tavia Wooley for an honest conversation about the realities of balancing motherhood, business ownership, healing, dating, and providing for a household often without the support people assume is there.
Together, they unpack the invisible weight so many women carry: raising black children, (candid conversation about Nolan Wells) the pressure to succeed, the loneliness of leadership, the emotional labor of motherhood, the challenges of dating after divorce, and the courage it takes to keep showing up while choosing yourself.
This conversation is for every woman who has ever felt exhausted from being everything to everyone.
In this episode, we discuss:
 -Motherhood and entrepreneurship  -Life after divorce  -Dating while healing  -Burnout and emotional resilience  -Black women's mental wellness  -Self-care beyond bubble baths  -Boundaries, purpose, and personal restoration  -What it means to truly Handle Her With Care
If you've ever wondered whether anyone sees the weight you carry, this episode is your reminder that you are not alone and that caring for yourself is not a luxury, it's a necessity.
Talk Real. Heal Deep. Live Soft.
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Handle Her With Care Podcast
What does it really cost to be the woman who carries it all?
In this heartfelt episode, April Marie sits down with a fellow entrepreneur, mother, and divorcee Tavia Wooley, for an honest conversation about the realities of balancing motherhood, business ownership, healing, dating, and providing for a household often without the support people assume is there.
Together, they unpack the invisible weight so many women carry: the pressure to succeed, the loneliness of leadership, the emotional labor of motherhood, the challenges of dating after divorce, and the courage it takes to keep showing up while choosing yourself.
This conversation is for every woman who has ever felt exhausted from being everything to everyone.
In this episode, we discuss:-Motherhood and entrepreneurship- Life after divorce- Dating while healing- Burnout and emotional resilience- Black women's mental wellness- Self-care beyond bubble baths- Boundaries, purpose, and personal restoration- What it means to truly Handle Her With Care
If you've ever wondered whether anyone sees the weight you carry, this episode is your reminder that you are not alone and that caring for yourself is not a luxury, it's a necessity.
 Talk Real. Heal Deep. Live Soft.
#HandleHerWithCare #Motherhood #WomenEntrepreneurs #BlackWomenInBusiness #SelfCareCoach #BurnoutRecovery #WomenHealing #DivorceRecovery #SingleMomLife #MentalWellness #WomenSupportingWomen #HealingJourney #PersonalGrowth #WomenInLeadership #SelfWorth #RestorationNotResentment #LifeAfterDivorce #PodcastForWomen

In this episode of Handle Her With Care Podcast, April Marie dives into a real and necessary conversation about hygiene, self-care, cleanliness, wellness, and what we are truly teaching the next generation of young women.
From shower routines and feminine hygiene to hair care, deodorant, skincare, and menstrual care, this episode explores the importance of actively teaching girls how to properly care for themselves — instead of assuming they “should already know.”
As a cosmetologist and self-care coach, April shares what she has witnessed firsthand: many young girls are lacking clear instruction and guidance when it comes to maintaining their bodies, personal hygiene, and personal spaces. This conversation is not about judgment — it’s about education, correction, confidence, and care.
This episode discusses:• Daily hygiene routines• Hair washing with braids• Feminine hygiene practices• Proper menstrual care• Cleanliness and self-respect• Teaching vs. assuming• Wellness habits for young women• Raising confident, healthy girls
Because watching someone do something is not the same as being taught how to do it yourself.
We are raising a new generation of women and they deserve guidance, patience, standards, and love.
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Welcome back to Handle Her With Care Podcast, it’s your girl, April Marie… a proud millennial just trying to understand why Gen Z will look you dead in your soul and give you absolutely nothing back.
In today’s episode, we’re talking about the infamous “Gen Z stare”  the blank look that has confused Gen X, stressed out millennials, and somehow feels completely normal to Gen Z.
Is it awkward? Yes.Is it a little uncomfortable? Also yes.But is it possible… that they’re onto something? 
We’re unpacking the generational differences in communication, emotional expression, and the unspoken expectation to always be “on.” And more importantly, we’re asking the real question:
Are they being disconnected… or are they protecting their peace?
 In This Episode We Talk About:
 Why the Gen Z stare feels so unsettling (especially for millennials) The pressure to perform politeness vs. choosing authenticity Emotional burnout and why younger women are opting out The pros of conserving your energy and not over-engaging The cons  when “peace” turns into avoidance or disconnection How to find balance between warmth, connection, and boundaries
 
 The Real Conversation:
Maybe it’s not about being cold…Maybe it’s about being intentional.
Maybe we don’t need to match their silence but we can learn how to stop overextending ourselves just to make others comfortable.
Because self-care isn’t just face masks and bubble baths…sometimes it looks like not reacting, not performing, and not explaining.
 
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In this episode of Handle Her With Care Podcast, April Marie explores a powerful and often overlooked form of self-care: physical touch.
In a world increasingly filled with AI, automation, and digital connection, we’re losing something essential.. human contact. From hugs to hand-holding to safe, intentional closeness, this episode unpacks why physical interaction may be the next evolution of real self-care.
“A hug goes a long way, especially when you don’t get hugs every day.” — TSU College Student Kalum Holland
 
April shares personal experiences as a haircare specialist, where even a simple embrace has reminded clients how deeply we all need connection.
She also dives into the rise of cuddle services, emotional support companions, and why more people are seeking safe, non-sexual physical connection in their daily lives.
This episode breaks down the science behind touch, including how cuddling and hugging release oxytocin the “love hormone” which helps reduce stress, improve sleep, lower blood pressure, and strengthen emotional bonds.
You’ll learn: Why physical touch is essential for mental and emotional health The real effects of touch deprivation in today’s digital world
 
How oxytocin impacts both men and women
 
The benefits of cuddling for stress, anxiety, sleep, and connection
 
How long a hug should last for maximum emotional and physical benefits Safe and intentional ways to incorporate touch into your self-care routine.
Whether you’re someone who loves physical touch or not, this conversation is for you because at the core, we are human, and we were designed to connect.
 
Around here, we fill our own cups.. because waiting on someone else to try will leave you empty. 
 
Talk Real. Heal Deep. Live Soft. 
 
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Welcome back to the Handle Her With Care Podcast! I’m your host, April Marie, and today we’re talking about something every relationship needs intentional date nights.
This episode is short, sweet, and impactful, but don’t get it twisted… it’s powerful.
Whether you’re planning a luxury night out, a cozy budget-friendly evening in, or something sensual and intimate to reignite the spark this episode gives you intentional ideas that build emotional connection, romance, and chemistry.
Because romance isn’t about how much you spend it’s about how you show up.
 In This Episode We Cover:
 5 Elevated Romantic Date Night Ideas• Staycations• Fine dining with deep conversation prompts• Couples spa experiences• Private chef experiences• Scenic sunset moments
 5 Budget-Friendly Date Nights• Candlelight dinners at home• Evening walks + intentional conversation• Game nights for two• Late-night drives + vision alignment• Memory lane nights
 5 Sensual & Intimate Date Nights• Slow dancing at home• Massage exchange nights• “Re-meet me” playful role-play• Desire + vulnerability conversations• Tech-free bedroom reset rituals
This episode is about nurturing your relationship, protecting your intimacy, and creating experiences that strengthen emotional and physical connection.
Handle your love life with care.Handle your partner with care.And always… handle yourself with care.
 
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